Why do people commit to a relationship? A good relationship takes time to nurture. If you don’t water the plant, it dies. If you water, fertilize and put in the sun, it will blossom. Relationships are work, but are they worth it?
The problem is people are busier than ever and don’t make time to grow their relationships. And relationships require daily attention, from the little things to the tragedies.
With that in mind, relationships come equipped with advantages and disadvantages.
Advantages include love, respect and security. The one person who will listen to you go on about the crazy lady who cut you off on the freeway. Whether you go out or stay home, you’re not alone. Someone who cares enough to ask how your day has gone. This person makes you feel like you are the key to their happiness, and is the willing recipient of your affection. The security that if the world turned its back on you, there would be one person who still had your back.
Disadvantages include disappointment and betrayal. The above expectations are high for any one person. People can’t read minds and relationships get into trouble when one doesn’t get the expected reaction from their partner. Unmet expectations are caused by lack of communication. Vague statements such as, “I want you to care about me” do not communicate anything useful. Focus in on what you really want, and be more specific. Let them know when they did something nice instead of pointing out everything they did wrong. Remember, people are not mind readers. Maybe we will have the technology in the future, but for now, we still have to use our words.
I want to hear from you. What’s something your partner has done that showed you they cared? Does your partner meet your expectations?
I have ended a relationship because my partner did not meet my expectations
- Yes (71%, 5 Votes)
- No (29%, 2 Votes)
Total Voters: 7